March 14, 2024

Whether you think you can,
or whether you think you cannot,
you are right.
” – Henry Ford

So, what are you thinking? What do you believe? What is your mindset?

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mindset — /ˈmīn(d)ˌset/

    • the established set of attitudes held by someone
    • a habitual or characteristic mental attitude that determines how you will interpret and respond to situations
    • a complex mental state involving beliefs and feelings and values and dispositions to act in certain ways

 

SYNONYMS: mentality; outlook; attitude

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This established set of attitudes is influenced by what you believe. I think Ford had it right with the above quote to a certain degree. I feel what is missing is ‘belief’. You can think about something all day, but if you don’t believe it will happen, your actions will not align to make it so. Instead, your thoughts will continue as thoughts alone. 

We think a lot. Actually, humans have about 6,200 thoughts per day, but how many of those thoughts are in support of manifesting our dreams?

When you make the conscious decision that no matter what, you will stay invested and dedicated to what you want in your life—whether that’s better health; a job you love; a commUnity to support you; more JOY; an aligned partner; a thriving business; or any other goal—you are setting yourself up for success. When the doubts, fears, and limited thoughts show up, and they will, you will have to make the conscious choice to overcome them.  

If you’ve been struggling with achieving your goals, or living the life of your dreams, I’ve been there, I feel you. The most empowering thing you can do is sit down and have a heart-to-heart with yourself, your higher self, the part of you that knows exactly what you need to do in order to change the things in your life that have not been working for you, or serving your highest good. Only you can make it happen. Only you can set the intention to work hard at supporting your mind, body, and soul to achieve whatever it is you want. 

Let’s take it one step further…

A growth mindset is a mindset held by individuals who believe their talents and skills can be developed through perseverance, good strategies, and input from others.

In her book “Mindset, Stanford professor Carol Dweck describes a growth mindset as being held by people who believe that their success depends on time and effort. People with a growth mindset feel their skills and intelligence can be improved with effort and persistence. They embrace challenges, persist through obstacles, learn from criticism, and seek out inspiration in the success of others.

Those who hold a growth mindset believe that they can get better at something by dedication of time, effort and energy. Working on one’s flaws, and the process—not just the outcome—are the most important components. With time and practice, people with a growth mindset believe they can achieve what they want.

Have you heard the phrase, “What you focus on expands?” It’s true. Energy flows where your attention goes and your thoughts are very powerful. Cognitive behavioural therapy says, “thoughts create feelings, feelings create actions or inactions, and those actions or inactions create outcomes or circumstances”.

Every cell in your body responds to energy

…and your thoughts are energy. The genetic expression of our cells can literally turn on, or turn off, in response to the energy of our thoughts. If we have negative thoughts, we send the message to our cells that things are not going well, but positive thoughts can actually elicit a healing response. This is the healing power of your thoughts!

Every moment we are given the opportunity to choose to be response-able, to take response-ability.  I spelt that word intentionally, not responsibility, but response-ability. You have the ABILITY to choose how you will RESPOND to any given situation in your life. This will carry you forward every day.  

If ‘responding’ flows from consciousness, then ‘reacting’ is the automation that occurs in its absence. Most of us live in a constant state of reactivity. That was me for most of my life. It wasn’t until I hit “rock-bottom”, a deep depression, that I realized I needed to do something different. I was sick and tired of feeling sick and tired. I was sick of my own thoughts and tired of doing the same thing day after day, hoping something would change, but not actually doing anything to change anything.

Let me explain. When things happen in your life, your perspective can be one where you ask, “Why is this happening TO me?” That mindset puts you in a state of powerlessness and blame, where you see everything that happens to you as someone else’s fault, or the fault of some external event that happened TO you. Alternatively, you can reframe any situation by asking “Why is this happening FOR me?” This mindset puts you in a state of empowerment. Now you’re in control to discover how any challenge or obstacle can facilitate your growth and learning. 

Take a pause to think about how a given situation can help you gain wisdom. What do your triggers, emotions, reactions, and responses reveal, to help you understand? You are always in control when you shift your perspective and take this approach. Make the choice to always ask yourself, “How is this happening FOR me? What can I learn from this?”

Your choice to take on a growth mindset is an action you will need to rely on again and again to keep you moving forward, even in times of fear, doubt, or uncertainty. You have the ABILITY to RESPOND to any situation, challenge or obstacle and use it as an opportunity to make wiser choices; to learn and grow physically, emotionally and mentally stronger.  This is how you create your life, your own reality, a life you Love, a life where you are excited to wake up for the day ahead, a life where you are THRIVING! 

Practice makes better

I definitely still have challenges with this. I take on the perspective of “practice makes better”. Each time I catch myself in a state of disempowerment and blame, I practice what I just explained. I take time to reflect on the situation, what happened, how I was a contributor to it, and what I could do differently next time for a better outcome. The more you take the time to work on this, the more you will experience yourself as the creator of your life. It takes patience, presence and self-compassion to make this mindset shift, because most of us have been conditioned to find blame instead of taking response-ability for our own thoughts, words, and actions. They didn’t teach us about this in school.

I was once in a dark place, and worked through so much of it alone, but you don’t have to. Don’t get me wrong, I am incredibly grateful for all the lessons I learned on my own, but one of the most important lessons I learned along the way is how having support, a commUnity you can turn to, makes it way easier and more FUN! This commUnity is here for you now, so don’t ever hesitate to reach out anytime you feel like you are struggling. Our commUnity is one where you will always find the support you need. Caring, inspiration, and motivation to push past the hurdles are integral to Symbio culture. The healing journey, the journey back to wholeness, can be challenging, but know that you are not alone. There are many others out there who are going through similar experiences. 

This was incredibly difficult for me to do when I began my journey, because I wasn’t taught to ask for help. The model I witnessed growing up, was to tough it out; don’t show weakness; don’t show that you don’t have it all figured out; because others will criticize, laugh, and make you feel stupid. AND I share this is not to blame or shame my parents, because I LOVE them and I know they did the best they could based on what they knew, based on what they had learned growing up. But when we know better, then it’s our response-ability to do better, and what a gift this ability is!

Mindfully yours,

Trish Carriera

Symbio Co-founder
Holistic Wellness Practitioner, Intuitive Wisdom Guide

Contributor and editor: Christian Zero

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